Ajith wondered why his sex life was deteriorating. While he can stay awake late at night to complete the work schedule, he keeps falling asleep every time his wife expects him to make love to her.
In an era of men falling asleep before attempting sex or after sex, here’s a new breed of men, falling asleep even while having sex! Ask them why and pat comes the reply — tired! The IT sector, call centres, BPOs and MNC have bred a new class of men — the sleepy lovers!
Chronic over-scheduling, overwork, stress, travelling, meeting targets and deadlines, etc. have become an intrinsic part of urban life. One takes appointments to meet one’s own wife. And when appointments have to be rescheduled, it is often sex that’s left behind.
Fatigue and stress do inhibit desire and arousal. Physical exhaustion alone cannot be blamed here, as mental exhaustion is equally treacherous. Exhaustion is not gender-oriented, but it is men who are mostly affected. Deprivation of sleep is a killer of sex life. Researchers at the University of Chicago have found that men with poor sleep patterns (less than five hours) have significantly lower levels of testosterone (male sex hormone), which not only reduces sex drive but also energy levels, sense of well-being and mood, leading to poor sexual performance
* Last things first: Do not attempt sex at night as a last thing after a hard day at work. Try it first thing in the morning or when you feel recharged.
* Sleep well: Ensure at least 6 to 7 hours of sleep per day.
* Don’t binge: Making love after a heavy meal or drinking may actually be disastrous. Eat light before sex!
* Have frequent vacations: You will actually find your zeal resurfacing.
* Medi-check: Sometimes it may be the hallmark of other health defects like anaemia, vitamin deficiency, side effects of medicines. So have periodic check-ups.
The writer is a sexologist. You can mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com.
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